🧠 Thoughtful Thursday - Diving Deep Today!

Hey Mama-to-be,

Let’s have a real conversation, and then let’s unpack it even more:)

I’ve been watching the comments in our Facebook group lately, and while I love the passion in this community, I’ve also seen some posts that made me stop and say, “Oof… we need to talk about this.”

There’s been a bit of shade thrown at moms having babies “too young” or “too old,” and I just want to lovingly remind us all:

There is no perfect age to become a mother.

Every age comes with gifts, and every age comes with challenges.
What matters most is that you feel informed, supported, and respected for where you are in your journey.

So let’s take a moment today to break it all down—gently, truthfully, and without judgment.

👶 Having a Baby in Your 20s

The energy. The bounce-back. The “I’ll carry the car seat, the diaper bag, the groceries and the baby” phase.

🟢 Advantages:

• Your body often recovers more easily from pregnancy and birth

• You have a longer stretch of time ahead if you want more kids

• Energy tends to be high—late nights and early mornings are a bit more manageable

• You may have fewer age-related fertility concerns

• Your brain goes through a kind of early “motherhood wiring” that matures you fast

🔴 Challenges:

• Financial stability can be a concern, especially early in careers

• You might feel like you're missing out on milestones your peers are hitting—travel, career building, social life

• Emotional maturity may still be in development (and that’s not a criticism—it’s just life unfolding!)

• You may encounter others treating you like a “young mom” and projecting their own biases

But let’s be clear: if you’re a younger mama, that doesn’t mean you aren’t capable.
It means you’re doing something profound—and your strength is real, even if you're still figuring out your path as you go.

👩‍🍼 Having a Baby in Your 30s

If pregnancy was porridge, your 30s are Goldilocks’ sweet spot—often seen as “just right.”

🟢 Advantages:

• You likely know yourself more deeply

• You’ve had time to build stability—career, finances, relationship

• Your social circle is often more settled and supportive

• Fertility is still strong for many women in their early 30s

• You’re old enough to reflect, but young enough to relate

🔴 Challenges:

• Fertility does start to decline after 35 (not overnight, but gradually)

• There can be more pressure to “hurry up” if you want more than one child

• Depending on your path, you might feel “behind” if your friends already have kids—or if none of them do yet

• Medical professionals might use the term “geriatric pregnancy” after 35, which honestly needs to be retired 😅

Still, many women find their 30s to be the perfect blend of readiness and resilience.
You’ve lived, you’ve grown, and now you’re ready to nurture.

🌺 Having a Baby After 40

Let’s get one thing straight right now:
Yes, there are real challenges. But having a baby after 40 is not the end of the world. In fact, for many women, it’s just the beginning.

🟢 Advantages:

• Emotional maturity and self-awareness are off the charts

• Many older moms have cultivated serious patience—and that’s golden in the toddler years

• Financial and career stability are often already in place

• There's no FOMO—older moms have done the partying, traveling, and “dipping and doing” already

• They tend to be fully present because they chose this phase, knowing what it meant

🔴 Challenges:

• Higher risk of pregnancy complications and certain genetic conditions (which means more testing and monitoring)

• It can be harder to conceive, especially without fertility support

• Energy levels may not match a toddler’s 6 a.m. bounce out of bed 😅

• People may make insensitive comments about your age

But hear this: a joyful, connected, and deeply meaningful motherhood experience is absolutely possible at this age.
You didn’t “miss the window”—you created your own timeline.

🍼 What About the Outliers? (Teens & 40+)

To our youngest and oldest mamas out there—this part’s for you.

Whether you’re under 20 or over 40, you’re not broken or behind.
You’re just walking a different path.

If you’re younger, your strength lies in adaptability, energy, and the way motherhood can shape your life with fresh direction. And if I’m being totally honest—after spending years building my career and waiting until everything felt "in place"—when I finally had my baby, a quiet little thought crept in: “Why did I wait so long to do this?”

The joy of becoming a mother hit me in a way I wasn’t prepared for.
It was deeper, fuller, and more life-giving than anything I’d ever known.

And yeah, a part of me felt a little bummed that I didn’t start sooner.
Not because I regret my path—just because the love is that good.

So to any younger mama reading this: dive into that joy.
Don’t doubt yourself.
This season is beautiful, and it’s yours.

And if you’re older, your gift is intention, groundedness, and the long view of what really matters.

💬 A Gentle Note to All of Us

Let’s meet each other with kindness.
Let’s listen before we judge.
And let’s remember that everyone’s motherhood story is unfolding exactly as it’s meant to.

Some of us start early.
Some of us start later.
Some of us take the scenic route.

But wherever you are on the road—you belong here.

You got this mama,
Naomi

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You got this momma,
Naomi 💛